Having Children Doesn’t Limit Your Life…

Hey everyone!

So this post is a little bit different to my normal topics, and it’s really based on some thoughts I’ve been having over the past few weeks.

Lots of people say that your life is over once you have children. That your life isn’t your own and you’re always having to think of someone else before yourself.

Which is partly true, but the tone in which it is said is the problem.

Before I had my baby, most of my days were filled with meaningless activities and more often than not I would be sitting at home watching TV until my then Fiancé came home to fill my time.

This might not be true for everyone, but before I had my little man I would get up late, do nothing, eat junk, go to work and maybe drink with friends on the weekend.

Once you have a child you have no choice but to get up and get going every day even if some days you really just can’t be bothered!

And in doing so my life has improved ten fold. I know my little man needs me. On a basic level he needs me to feed and water him. But children require a lot more than that to develop into happy people. They need love, fun, adventure, stimulation and a role model in their parents.

Now I have Hunter I walk more, play more, laugh more, love more, and possibly most importantly I think more.

I think about the person I am. And what I am teaching my son every day. Amongst many forms of learning, children pick up their behaviour through observation and re-enactment. In basic terms, what you do, they do. I realised that I needed to be calmer.

I realised what it meant when I heard people say ‘it’s not worth it‘. Whether is about a fight or an argument. Because it really isn’t worth it. If I got into an argument with someone now, it would have to be for a damn good reason. Because no way am I putting my child in harms way for nothing. I will teach my son to talk if he has a problem not shout.

Becoming a mother has made me re-evaluate my life goals, and strive to reach for my dream life with my family. The limits are endless.

*Disclaimer: this is my opinion, it’s cool if you don’t agree*

Let me know what you think! How did having children change your life?

Lots of Love

L

An Honest Depiction of Parenthood

When my Husband and I first found out I was pregnant, we were absolutely over the moon. We found out on New Year’s Eve, so the news really did mark a new beginning and a different stage of our lives together. Our little boy was planned and we literally couldn’t be happier! All of the friends I told were really happy for me too and I was glad to share my excitement with people who cared.

However, the negativity I could see all around me was truly astonishing! My partner wanted to share his excitement with the world, too; however his happiness was often met with extremely negative comments… “wait till you’re getting up every hour of the night, you won’t be so excited then!” “You won’t be saying that when they’re constantly crying.” I thought it was absolutely awful. If my partner had said he had just bought a new fancy car, I can’t imagine anyone saying “wait till you see how much petrol it needs then” “wait till you crash and ruin it then.” It just doesn’t happen.

I scroll through Facebook and see countless posts titled “mother’s brutally honest depiction of parenthood,” and see images like this…

Yes, I understand you might argue, this is just a bit of fun Lauren, why are you taking it the wrong way! But these images are littered with negativity, and there are thousands of them! “I used to be cool and do cool things” is a very sad depiction of what being a parent is and, to be quite frank, who said you were cool before? It really annoys me to be honest when I see people blasting their children on Facebook, especially when there are families who didn’t get to hold their baby, or got to hold their little angel but never got to take them home. I am in no way saying being a parent is easy. Or that it isn’t tiring, and that people shouldn’t be honest about the struggles you face during parenthood. What I’m trying to say is that it isn’t JUST THAT. It is so much more!

Is this really true? Or ‘Honest’?

It’s a whole lot better waking up to your child than an alarm clock!

Being a parent is amazing!

You get to look at a miniature version of yourself or the one you love doing awesome stuff, every day! Like learning words and saying silly things that make you laugh until your belly hurts. You may have to wake up at 5AM every morning but as soon as you sit up and look at that child smiling back at you, the time of the morning disappears. First steps? I can’t even tell you of the pride you will feel. That little human has eyes as beautiful as the universe, and when they look at you and their eyes tell you they love you there is absolutely no greater feeling. That little human loves you so so much, and they think you are the coolest person on the planet!

If you knew you had just one more week to spend with your child, would you moan or curse? No, you would wake up each morning before them, just to watch them sleep. You would stop washing up and play with them a little longer. You’d fill their days with joy and they’d gladly return the favour. You would wish you could have a million more sleepless nights just to have them with you. You would laugh with them and you would cry at the thought of losing them. You wouldn’t want to be ‘cool’ like you were before you had them. Because they make you a better person.

Am I being dramatic?

Probably.

But it’s something I really care about.

Deciding to become a parent is a huge, rewarding, tiring, amazing experience. Nothing worth having comes easy, and one day they will have lives all of their own, so let’s just appreciate the good times while they’re still our babies.