Life Update, and My Makeup of The Day!

Good Evening!

How has your day been? I had a lovely afternoon in Birmingham town centre with my family on what was a fine sunny day, which included lunch so you know, life is good!

We then met up with some more of my family to have a pink gin in a pretty beer garden!

I have been trying to take a more positive and thoughtful approach to life recently and in light of this approach I have decided to have a go at completing my psychology degree! So providing student finance let’s me carry on, I will be proceeding with that in October!

I went kinda full glam today with my makeup and I was really happy with the look, although the heat made it feel a bit heavy on my face,

So if the sun is shining tomorrow, I’ll be having a makeup free day and taking in some of those rays 😻!

I’m not sure if you guys are interested in these kinds of posts from me so I’d love some feedback!

Let me know what you’ve been up to recently, or ways that you keep positive vibes flowing!

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Lots of Love

L

Happy Valentines Day ♥️

I LOVE love! It is so lovely.

So I’m dedicating this post to my gorgeous husband Kieran 😁! He has been my valentine for 9 years now. We have been through everything together and we are still going strong.

This is us at prom, and just married!

I have learnt through our nine years together, that you don’t stop getting to know each other, or at least we haven’t yet! It takes a long time to truly get to know someone and I’m glad he chose me to know him the best!

He recently got a face tattoo, and although a lot of people think this is plain wrong, I happen think it looks pretty hot 😏!

He has been pursuing his passion for Rap music recently and I would love it if you guys could check out his first video! It’s an A-Z Rap challenge and I’m not even being biased, it is really good! It would mean so much to him and might score me a few browny points this Valentine’s Day 😘!

Kie For King – Alphabet Avenger

If you have a YouTube account and you enjoyed it give him a follow too!

I love you Kie, always have, always will.

Look Book 01: Surprise Party 🎉

I had such a brilliant weekend! And so did my Husband because I managed (with a lot of help from his Mother and Father) to throw him a surprise birthday party!

The goal was to make him feel special, because that is what he is!

We often dress up just to go for a meal at his mom and dads house, so I thought the perfect plan was to pretend we were having a meal there, when really all his friends and family were there waiting! It was awesome and he had no idea 😁!

Boots: Ego Shoes and dress: Boohoo I received many compliments on my carefully chosen outfit, which I was pleased about as I have been making an effort in the fashion department in recent times!I thought the colours in this outfit were just gorgeous and match with my complexion as sometimes I can look quite pale. The boots are actually so comfortable I could easily wear them on a night out!

The dress, I felt amazing in, but the only downfall was that the side split in the was actually very high! It looks ok in the photograph but if you’re moving around it rides up so given that it’s short already the booty is on show if it goes up any further 😂! I don’t know about you but I’m not a fan of flashing people so I actually wore some black gym shorts underneath. I don’t think I should have picked a bigger size as the dress fitted well everywhere else, I think this was just the design of the dress!

All in all I was pretty happy with this look! What do you think?

An Honest Depiction of Parenthood

When my Husband and I first found out I was pregnant, we were absolutely over the moon. We found out on New Year’s Eve, so the news really did mark a new beginning and a different stage of our lives together. Our little boy was planned and we literally couldn’t be happier! All of the friends I told were really happy for me too and I was glad to share my excitement with people who cared.

However, the negativity I could see all around me was truly astonishing! My partner wanted to share his excitement with the world, too; however his happiness was often met with extremely negative comments… “wait till you’re getting up every hour of the night, you won’t be so excited then!” “You won’t be saying that when they’re constantly crying.” I thought it was absolutely awful. If my partner had said he had just bought a new fancy car, I can’t imagine anyone saying “wait till you see how much petrol it needs then” “wait till you crash and ruin it then.” It just doesn’t happen.

I scroll through Facebook and see countless posts titled “mother’s brutally honest depiction of parenthood,” and see images like this…

Yes, I understand you might argue, this is just a bit of fun Lauren, why are you taking it the wrong way! But these images are littered with negativity, and there are thousands of them! “I used to be cool and do cool things” is a very sad depiction of what being a parent is and, to be quite frank, who said you were cool before? It really annoys me to be honest when I see people blasting their children on Facebook, especially when there are families who didn’t get to hold their baby, or got to hold their little angel but never got to take them home. I am in no way saying being a parent is easy. Or that it isn’t tiring, and that people shouldn’t be honest about the struggles you face during parenthood. What I’m trying to say is that it isn’t JUST THAT. It is so much more!

Is this really true? Or ‘Honest’?

It’s a whole lot better waking up to your child than an alarm clock!

Being a parent is amazing!

You get to look at a miniature version of yourself or the one you love doing awesome stuff, every day! Like learning words and saying silly things that make you laugh until your belly hurts. You may have to wake up at 5AM every morning but as soon as you sit up and look at that child smiling back at you, the time of the morning disappears. First steps? I can’t even tell you of the pride you will feel. That little human has eyes as beautiful as the universe, and when they look at you and their eyes tell you they love you there is absolutely no greater feeling. That little human loves you so so much, and they think you are the coolest person on the planet!

If you knew you had just one more week to spend with your child, would you moan or curse? No, you would wake up each morning before them, just to watch them sleep. You would stop washing up and play with them a little longer. You’d fill their days with joy and they’d gladly return the favour. You would wish you could have a million more sleepless nights just to have them with you. You would laugh with them and you would cry at the thought of losing them. You wouldn’t want to be ‘cool’ like you were before you had them. Because they make you a better person.

Am I being dramatic?

Probably.

But it’s something I really care about.

Deciding to become a parent is a huge, rewarding, tiring, amazing experience. Nothing worth having comes easy, and one day they will have lives all of their own, so let’s just appreciate the good times while they’re still our babies.

My new identity.

The 08/11/2017 was one of the best days of my life. It wasn’t THE best day of my life, because I’ve been lucky enough to have many amazing days, like finding out I was pregnant with my son! I don’t think you can have just one best day!

This day for Kieran and I, was about celebrating nearly 9 wonderful years together and shouting to the world that we’re in it for life. We have made it through some very difficult times together and even more brilliant times. I couldn’t believe he was the man I was meeting at the end of the aisle. I’m one lucky lady. If you don’t feel like that, even after years with one another, I would question whether you should be getting married at all!

I did not anticipate how life changing getting married really was! I realised quite quickly that tying the knot is more than just a man made construct. It was more than just a piece of gold on my finger. It was so much more than a pretty dress and one perfect day. I married my soul mate. I just checked into forever with THE most amazing person on the planet! Not only did I marry the love of my life. We created a new identity. We double barrelled our names to become the new Hemming-Marsh family. And let me tell you it is so refreshing! It seemed to both of us that with our new identity came the feeling of a new start. A new chance to evaluate what we want from our lives as individuals and a couple. Along with the feeling that all is right in the world because Mr and Mrs Hemming-Marsh are who we’ve always been. Two halves of a whole.

The majority of marriages (traditionally) include the bride changing her name to the grooms last name. I wondered what part this plays in the aftermath of identity in marriage. Does the lady feel fresh and new, while the male feels like he always has done. Or does the woman feel that she is fitting into someone else’s identity and leaving herself behind? For many women I can imagine it is a great honour to take their husbands last name. Lucky for me, the UK is pretty forward thinking in this department and we have more choice now. Whether it is the choice to change your name, or the choice to enter a same sex partnership.

It is wonderful being a wife. It is wonderful that we both felt we could make decisions that were right for us.

It’s a real sign of the times.